I don’t understand what all the hype is about fitting in with some overrated clique. For me personally, I don’t want to be where I don’t feel like I’m not wanted for who I am. Am I crazy? When I watch Gerald and Ronald, I’m amazed at the differences between them when it comes to belonging. Gerald is my child whom I can always count on to come home with a crazy, albeit urgent, request for the latest fad. You know those necklaces that baseball players wear? Well he has every team. Elite socks? He has every color. My poor child would have had a Justin Bieber haircut at one point in his life if his quasi-afro would’ve cooperated. Every time he comes to me with a new request, and I ask him why he has to have this latest “thing,” he tells me (with no shame) that “all of his friends have it.” Ronald, on the other hand, loves being different. His full-blown afro is the biggest I’ve ever seen… and he just asked me if I can dye it purple! No kidding… He never [ever] matches when he goes to school in the morning, and when Gerald tells him that, his response is always, “I don’t care.” Now, being my overly controlling self, I used to have a terrible time letting him walk out of the house wearing orange shorts, a green shirt, and sneakers without shoelaces, but I finally came to the conclusion that if that’s what makes him happy, then I’ll learn to pick my battles. Believe me when I tell you, there are countless more battles waiting for me every day with these two! They’re pretty much even when it comes to friends and popularity, so what’s the difference with one conforming and the other paving his own way? They’re both happy children (except when I’m the worst mom ever and they’re not getting their own way), and they’re loved by their family, friends, and teachers. I have to admit: They’re teaching me some crazy valuable life lessons. It’s okay to be different. And it’s okay to be the same, too. We should all do what makes us comfortable, regardless of what everyone else thinks about it. Thanks boys.
March 9, 2013
“Why are you trying so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?” ~Ian Wallace
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